Each one of us must have a friend who hasn't had an adult dating relationship that last over a year, but hooking up seems to be much more convenient for them. They can easily get in a discreet and casual hookup and get out of it. Even if they occasionally had a boyfriend, it won't last for too long.
It's not because they prefer online hook up and easy fling over mature dating, but mainly for the reason that they don't know how to maintain a long-term relationship. If you are one of these peers or you have such a friend, there is some relationship advice that might be helpful. When we say hookup, this word often comes with casual, discreet, fws, nsa and something like that, while when we say relationship, adult dating, it often comes with serious, mature and so on.
Hence, you can see the obvious core difference between casual hookups and dating relationship - attitude. Dating and relationship is a serious matter no matter what form, such as online dating, bbw dating, the so-called cougar dating, meaning older women dating younger men, etc. As long as you agree that you are dating, you should have the correct attitude towards it, which brings my first relationship advice.
Never talk about important matters over the phone. What would you do if you don't want to see your hookup dating partner? Usually we would just ghost on them and stop calling, right? Well, this is how we treat casual hookups and fwb relationship. However, if you are dating this person, if there is something important you want to discuss with, do not do it over the phone. Internet and phone are the two blessing from 20 century. But there are thorns on each rose. Convenience isn’t always good.
Sometimes, we just have to do things by the old-fashioned way. Phone can pass over words and information, but it can't deliver emotions. A lot can be missed and misunderstood over the phone by plain words and sentences. Only by face to face, can you personally feel each other's reaction and attitude.
Okay, so you are already in a mature dating relationship, what if your boyfriend still hasn't brought out the "G" word? He never introduces you as his girlfriend. Is this a red flag? We should take a dialectical view towards this matter as an adult. These days, it's not hard for us to find that less and less people would refer their other half as girlfriend or boyfriend, because they think this is pretty childish. "Only kids say that". This comes from one of my friend.
If you happen to be with someone who have this idea and you happen to be a person who cares about labels, then you should realize this fact. Not all people prefer these label things. Not referring you as girlfriend does not mean they don't like you. Love is not only a word, but most importantly, it's an action. Feel it instead of listening.
However, you do need to clarify some matters like is this a serious relationship or just some casual hookup thing? Are you fwb or something more than that? Are you still seeing each other? Just make sure you are on the same page on these matters before pouring into your feelings and emotions.
Of course, if you are the lucky dog and meet the person who openly claims that you are his girlfriend, then hold on to it. But if the "G" word still hasn't popped up, don't worry. This is not a necessity nor a rite of passage to each relationship.
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